My boyfriend (same one from this post) and I have been in a relationship for 11 months, soon to be a year on March 11th. Although we are a young couple, we've been through hell and back. Our relationship has survived a lot of obstacles that most relationships don't. And I do believe I'm in love with him, but is our relationship healthy? In my opinion, no.
The most common relationship "maker or breaker" is trust. If there is no trust, there is no relationship, right? I've already said we've been through a lot.. And we're still together at the end of the day.. But those "obstacles" definitely had an impact on our relationship, good and bad. The good effect is that we've actually become more aware of how strong our feelings are for one another & we've developed a tighter bond/connection with each other. The bad effect is that my trust level for him changed drastically. Over the past few months, it has gotten much better but around November and December was when it was the worst. I could not trust him whatsoever because of his continuous lying and betrayal towards me. I still do have some trust issues that needs resolving but I'm really working on it. But this is why I believe our relationship is a little unhealthy.. I don't fully trust him like I used to which leads to extra stress on me because I'm constantly hoping and trying to prevent him from hurting me again. He hates that I don't always trust him, but he can't complain too much because it was partially his fault. I contradict myself because although I haven't gained all my trust for him back, I love that boy till the death of me and really never wanna leave him. We're making a huge effort to get past the things that's happened. It's working so far, but it takes time and patience. Time and patience :)
The most common relationship "maker or breaker" is trust. If there is no trust, there is no relationship, right? I've already said we've been through a lot.. And we're still together at the end of the day.. But those "obstacles" definitely had an impact on our relationship, good and bad. The good effect is that we've actually become more aware of how strong our feelings are for one another & we've developed a tighter bond/connection with each other. The bad effect is that my trust level for him changed drastically. Over the past few months, it has gotten much better but around November and December was when it was the worst. I could not trust him whatsoever because of his continuous lying and betrayal towards me. I still do have some trust issues that needs resolving but I'm really working on it. But this is why I believe our relationship is a little unhealthy.. I don't fully trust him like I used to which leads to extra stress on me because I'm constantly hoping and trying to prevent him from hurting me again. He hates that I don't always trust him, but he can't complain too much because it was partially his fault. I contradict myself because although I haven't gained all my trust for him back, I love that boy till the death of me and really never wanna leave him. We're making a huge effort to get past the things that's happened. It's working so far, but it takes time and patience. Time and patience :)
