Wanna know what really irritates me? Judgmental people -_- People who sit there, and constantly criticize others because of their looks, their personality, their actions, etc. I mean, I know everybody has judged somebody several times in their life but some people do it excessively. And that really irks me.
The first problem I have with it is that majority of the time, the critic doesn't even know the person they're talking about. They might know their name and other basic information but they don't know what that person has been through and/or is going through in their life. So why are you judging them? I never really understood how people can do it SO often. Is it really that important to you? I do think it's a comfort zone to some people.. It makes them feel better about themselves. But honestly, everybody has been through something and you never know someone's situation. Not everyone knows your situation either, which leads me to my second problem.
No one wants to be judged, including you. If someone had a problem with something you did, would you want them to judge you? Would you want them to belittle you because of something that's perfectly fine to you? No. So what gives you the right to judge others? Just because you may not understand why someone does something or acts a certain way doesn't mean you can talk down about it/them. You don't know what it's like to live their life. If they feel comfortable with it, let them be. Why do you even care? If it has nothing to do with you and your life, why even bother? Worry about yourself.
There are other ways to express how you feel about someone and their actions. Before you judge someone, try asking them about it. Try understanding their point of view, ask them why. Some things might be personal and they might not want to give you that information, but you have to respect that. I'm sure people would rather you ask them about their actions/decisions rather than you criticizing them about it. It would make things a lot easier. I understand that some aspects, such as looks, can't always be questioned.. But, if you don't like the way someone looks, then leave it alone. There's no need to talk about it because I'm sure everyone doesn't think you're the most attractive person in the world either.
*Sigh* Bottom line: Treat others how you want to be treated. Simple as that! ;)
The first problem I have with it is that majority of the time, the critic doesn't even know the person they're talking about. They might know their name and other basic information but they don't know what that person has been through and/or is going through in their life. So why are you judging them? I never really understood how people can do it SO often. Is it really that important to you? I do think it's a comfort zone to some people.. It makes them feel better about themselves. But honestly, everybody has been through something and you never know someone's situation. Not everyone knows your situation either, which leads me to my second problem.
No one wants to be judged, including you. If someone had a problem with something you did, would you want them to judge you? Would you want them to belittle you because of something that's perfectly fine to you? No. So what gives you the right to judge others? Just because you may not understand why someone does something or acts a certain way doesn't mean you can talk down about it/them. You don't know what it's like to live their life. If they feel comfortable with it, let them be. Why do you even care? If it has nothing to do with you and your life, why even bother? Worry about yourself.
There are other ways to express how you feel about someone and their actions. Before you judge someone, try asking them about it. Try understanding their point of view, ask them why. Some things might be personal and they might not want to give you that information, but you have to respect that. I'm sure people would rather you ask them about their actions/decisions rather than you criticizing them about it. It would make things a lot easier. I understand that some aspects, such as looks, can't always be questioned.. But, if you don't like the way someone looks, then leave it alone. There's no need to talk about it because I'm sure everyone doesn't think you're the most attractive person in the world either.
*Sigh* Bottom line: Treat others how you want to be treated. Simple as that! ;)
Now with my current boyfriend, Nick, it's a little different. We've been dating for a great 4 months and I plan on it lasting much longer. I have no doubt in my mind that I'm in love with him :love: But now, I'm older & more aware of the difference between love and infatuation. I don't make the same mistakes as I did in my other relationship, because I've learned from them. And just because my first serious boyfriend wasn't "the one", doesn't mean I give up all hope for Nick. I believe we'll be together for a long time, and if we're meant to be then it'll last until we're walking down that aisle. My mom always tells me that "I'll meet plenty more guys in college" but I'm just gonna let whatever happens happen. If he is truly meant for me, everything will work out just fine. Not stressin' at all.
